A few take it well and a few have problems right from the beginning. Anyway, when your child does come home and says “Mamma, I don’t want to go to school”, what do you do? You shout? You sit them down and talk to them or do you just not bother? Let’s look at 10 simple methods how this cute little problem can be solved.
1. AGREEING ON / ACCEPTING THE FACT
” Haan Mein Haan Milana ” It might be your first kid. As new as the school is for the kid, the way your kid will react towards school will be new to you. Very often as parents, as soon as your child says no to school, you either give them a stare, advice them or just discipline them. For once, the next time this happens, say ” yes, I agree that school is not a nice place and you don’t have to go anymore” See what magic happens then!
2. THE CASUAL APPROACH
As parents, the ” advice cap ” is always on. Do you get stressed when your child is not liking school? Do you start asking your kid a lot of questions to investigate the reason why this is happening? Or do you start panicking and rush to the School Principal feeling helpless? Calm down. Breathe a little. Take it easy. This is normal. Be casual about it. Brush the topic away as something light when your kid addresses it. But if the same behavior repeats, then you look into it in detail.
3. EVERYTHING ABOUT THE TEACHER
The kid’s school teacher plays a major role in every feeling the kid has towards school. The teacher is surely the ” 2nd Mother ” for every kid. Now it is not enough if you just pay the school fees and leave your kid at school. Develop a relationship with your kid’s teacher. This will help you understand in detail about how your child is in class and are there any specific observations that can be taken note off. This will help you look into a side that you are blind to!
4. START TO END
Get involved in every school activity, end to end. If there’s a program at the school such as an annual day function or even as small as a competition, show your kids that you are still there for them and they are not alone. This will make the child feel secure even in the new atmosphere. Don’t ignore stories that your kid tells you before sleeping at night. He/she will want to share every feeling with you. Listen, love and care! A wholesome approach like this will surely make your child start loving school!
5. A FEW DAYS OFF SCHOOL
As we grow up, we become used to not taking leave off work, not bunking lectures etc. But what we fail to realize that a child has this liberty. It is always okay to let your child stay at home a few days if he is not the most comfortable at school. Sometimes forcing the child beyond a certain point will only make things worse. So, accept the little hurdle and let the child take some time off at home. If this is done in a smooth manner, your child will by himself be ready with his bag packed to get back to school soon.
6. CREATE INTEREST
It’s all about the story! How well can you create a fantasy for your child? Don’t let your child think that a school is a boring place. Build a story around everything. A good way to do this is by using a bit of humor. You can explain to the child how the principal of the school is strict, yet funny when he speaks. You can tell the child about the various games that they learn and play in class. Ask the child if she wants to have fun all day? Convince them that school is “all fun”. Being the innocent sweethearts that they are, they will consider what you say.
7. MAKE LEARNING A “HOMELY” FEELING
A lot of times, why children are resistant towards school is due to how different the environment is at school while compared to home. It is important to reduce the strength of this feeling. School related things need to be recreated at home even before the kid joins the school. Keeping things back to where they belong, sharing what they have, visual aid such as charts, diagrams, funny cartoons can be made a part of the home environment in advance. These factors will make the child feel that school is not so different after all!
8. A LITTLE TREAT ALWAYS WORKS
Some parents ask, ” is it okay to tell the kid that we will gift him/her something if she does a particular task?” Yes, it is okay! Not all things can be learned easily and the “right” way. Sometimes you just have to use a prize, chocolates or some goodies to convince your child. Now, for example, you can tell your child, ” I will buy you your favorite new bicycle if you go to school”. This is good because the child does stop complaining. But beware, use this method as a last resort! Using this always can turn dangerous!
9. BEST FRIEND
Some of you live in townships, some in villas, some in apartments and some in independent houses! No matter where you are, your child is likely to mingle with kids around your colony and make a list of best friends. This is a great way! What you can do is, use examples of these friends and can say that ” you can make more of them at school”. Or even, you can ask them, ” If they want to be your best friend”? In all chances, they will say yes and eventually start going to school without complaining.
10. SOCIAL MEDIA
The love for learning can occur through any medium. The medium does not matter as long as the need is met. Today, a lot of educational material is available online which portrays knowledge in the most creative ways. Once there a ” curious cap ” on the child’s head, he/she will automatically want to know more about a lot of things. At this point, you don’t even have to convince your child to go to school.The child will be good to go.