1. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU
Not being able to make friends is not a big problem. It’s not something you need to worry about. Research says 3 out of 5 kids have this hurdle. But within no time, it goes away. So if someone says that there is something wrong with you because you don’t know how to make friends, give them a deaf ear. You don’t need to listen to such people. Don’t treat it as a huge problem, tell yourself that “I am capable of making friends and I will do so soon”
2. ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE
As soon as you realize that you are having a hard time making friends at school, don’t fight the fact saying maybe there is something wrong with others around you. First of all, let me say it again, it is okay to not be able to make friends. It can be learned over time. So as soon you accept that you are having a hard time at this, half your work is done. Here onwards you will look for ways of changing that. It’s just the beginning. Within no time, you will have a huge set of friends wanting to be with you.
3. DON’T LET ONE INCIDENT CHANGE YOU
Very often, let’s say in a gathering, or an annual function at school are the times you might realize that you don’t have friends around you. Or, there might come a point in class where during a class activity, no one chooses you as their partner. Now, does this mean you will never have a partner to help you with in class? Maybe no one knows you well enough for now. So don’t let one situation make you feel that you are bad at making friends.
4. BE A PART OF IT ALL
Isolation does not help at all. Be a part of all the class activities. When the teacher wants volunteers for certain things, be the first to raise your hand. This gives you the chance to mingle with your classmates and they can get to know you better. Once they know that you are great to be around with, you will automatically start making friends. Within no time, everyone will know your name and who you really are as a person.
5. YOU CAN TAKE THE FIRST STEP
Very often we expect others to come and talk to us, or begin a conversation. And when this does not happen we blame ourselves saying we are not capable of making friends. It’s very important that at the time, we take the first step. The first Hi, the first hello, the first smile. These are small things that will work wonders and help you in making friends. Next time, you feel like talking to a classmate, don’t think too much. Start a conversation. This way, you will succeed in ways you never imagined.
6. SHOWCASE YOUR TALENT
The best way to get people talking to you is by showing them your talents, your qualities etc. You might be a good actor, a good artist, a singer or even a dancer. When the school gives you any opportunity to showcase your talent, don’t hesitate at all. Use this platform for your own good. Once people see how amazing you are, they will walk up to you and speak about the brilliant work that you did. Before you know it, you will have a long list of friends who love you and admire your talent.
7. BE OPEN ABOUT IT TO PARENTS/TEACHERS
It is important that you speak about this to your parents and teachers. Thinking about it and feeling lonely is never going to help. Be open about it! This way, not only will you feel better, you might end up getting amazing solutions to your problem. Your teacher will help you open up to people in the class and your parents will support you through it.
8. SHARE AND CARE
When a fellow school mate needs some help and you think you can contribute, do it! Help a person through something he/she is going through. This will let the other person know that you are a caring person. And others will notice this too. This way, the respect for you will increase which is a good sign. Share whatever you have with others around you. These are 2 simple things to do which will help you in making friends.
9. ANGER, JEALOUSY AND IRRITATION
No one is perfect. Sometimes you may refuse to make someone your friend just because you find that person a little short tempered or irritating. Now, that is not an enough reason for you not to talk to the person. There might be a lot of other qualities in that person which are amazing. So it might be worth in trying to talk to this person. Let go off the negatives, accept people for the positives. This way making friends becomes easier.
10. QUANTITY OVER QUALITY
Now, we might think that it is only valuable if we make 10 or 15 friends. Or maybe you feel that is the way to be “popular”. We end up trying to convince a lot of people. But remember, having one two friends who really love and care for you are better than having 10 friends who don’t really care much about you. Respect a person for his/her quality and that is enough for you.
“You are amazing. People do want to be with you. It will take time, but take the first step” Keeping these 10 points in mind will surely help you in making friends. It’s a slow process but it will work. Don’t keep worrying about it. Friends will come your way when they have to. Till then stay happy, stay yourself. All the best with making new friends.